It’s Friday so I am going assume that what is coming next is wine 😛 and good times with the girls! Cheers to making new and fabulous memories!
One of my amazing friends said to me the other day; ” Your head is just above water after everything you’ve been through lately and you need to keep it there.” Then yesterday my colleagues and I were having a laugh about all the ridiculous stories I entertain them with on a Monday. Yes, my weekends have turned into one hilarious event after the next and I like to make people laugh so we laugh together at all the ridiculousness 🙂 Some people can’t seem to laugh at it though and rather they sit there and judge you. That’s ok too 🙂 I judge people all the time. I have been called unstable, a bitch, a skank, a whatever; I have been told that I have changed and then I remembered that movie “Little Black Book” where she says at the beginning of a the movie:
Question: How does a girl who falls... No, actually, she jumps...eyes open, down a rabbit hole, plummeting into chaos... come out the other end unchanged?
Anyone jumping down a rabbit hole into chaos will come out the other end changed. You learn more about who you are and you learn more about the people around you who you call friends. I’m not relating this to me specifically; I am actually letting everyone know that it is ok to go through changes in your life and not be the person who you were before all the drama and chaos. It’s ok to not be a perfect person all of the time and the people who really know you and love you will always see the good in you. It’s not about making everyone else happy; if you’re happy that will happen on its own.
Who wants to be perfect? I would much rather live with my foot in my mouth and not have to watch my ps’ and q’s 🙂 besides, life is supposed to be fun and everyone keeps making everything too serious. I would rather be laughing about random nonsense with everyone I meet 😛
There is no such thing as an innocent person. So while some of the people I used to call friends sit around discussing things they know nothing about I think they ought to take responsibility for the damage they’re causing with their speculation and assumptions they are so willingly spreading around.
I have not written a post in a very, very long time, but I have this sudden inspiration to write about something, because I want to make it clear that I am not a weak person and there is no ways I will allow people to draw ridiculous conclusions about me and make me out to be some sort of crazy person. Yes, you on your pedestals who think you know better and can dictate to me who I should be.. You bitches who think I don’t think I know that deep down you’re all insecure with who you are think that by breaking others down you can feel better about yourself.
I am happy to accept responsibility for my actions and admit when I have done wrong. I will even go to the ends of the earth to make up for my wrong doings. I never said I am a perfect person and I never expect others to be perfect either. I suppose it’s always nice to know that when you’re in a bad space the people who have been in your life for long and who you have built relationships with are there because they care about you and want to help you succeed.. not because they want to find any which way possible to break you down and hurt you.
“Unstable????” Yes, I am about to defend myself, because I am by no means “unstable.” It’s made me laugh for the past few days. Apparently, no one else on the planet has ever had an emotional break-down after being off their face drunk and fluctuated between being happy and sad. It is amazing how a single event suddenly boils down to a person being emotionally unstable… and defines the person. My opinion.. it just gives the sociopath the exact ammunition they were looking for to humiliate you and break you down. Luckily, I am not easily humiliated and I can laugh at myself when I do silly things and hopefully learn from those experiences and move on.
When I look at all the factors that sum up a sociopath I now know what the motive has been all the time considering the past few weeks behavior. Look, I am never going to apologize for the fact that I am an attractive girl and I am never going let the jealousy of others bring me down. I am beginning to get used to people finding new ways of putting me down and that is why I can’t be friends with people who are insecure about the way they look. Vain? No.. it’s just the sad truth. I am not the one who says that having a pretty face makes me any better than anyone else. If you really want a showdown with me then bring it on; but don’t break me down to others behind my back and draw petty conclusions about who I am.
Just to help everyone this is how you can spot a sociopath – and the people I am sub-texting about throughout this post are sociopaths and will get theirs.. that is a promise:
1) Sociopaths are charming
2) Sociopaths are more spontaneous and intense than other people
3) Sociopaths are incapable of feeling shame, guilt or remorse
4) Sociopaths invent outrageous lies about others
5) Sociopaths seek to dominate others and “win” at all costs
6) Sociopaths tend to be highly intelligent
7) Sociopaths are incapable of love
8) Sociopaths never apologize
9) Sociopaths are delusional and literally believe that what they say becomes truth
To those who have allowed themselves to be manipulated by the sociopaths and jumped on the bullshit-bandwagon.. You wait and see; when they no longer need anything from you then you will probably be chewed up and spat out much in the same way. Am I a victim? Nope… I’m just “unstable.”
I’m going to be honest; I watched Mean Girls again the other day and I absolutely love it. I think the best part about it is how we – ladies – all love to play the victim like we’ve never ever done or said anything bitchy about someone else behind their back. We have all be the villain of the piece. Am I saying it’s a good thing? NO! It’s just one of those unavoidable, unnecessary things in life that we do. We love to say: Men don’t listen! And well, generally it’s not a strong quality that the men of this world possess, but man, oh man do we love to talk s*** about one another. The hilarious thing is that some girls make it incredibly easy to be bitchy about them just by being themselves. You don’t have to try to think of an insult, because they are a walking, talking insult to themselves. Is that harsh? Well, they should work on being more introspective and less defensive, because no one is perfect and we all make mistakes in life. Also, even though it hurts to hear what people say about you it doesn’t hurt to acknowledge it and if the same thing is said over and over and you were self-aware you might actually try to better yourself. My best are those girls who say: I don’t get along well with girls, because they’re so bitchy. Erm, perhaps you’re the bitch or you just love the attention you get from guys? It’s fine if you fall into either of those categories, but don’t blame other girls for being bitchy then.
I can be a bitch, but I have really amazing girlfriends who I would do anything for and there is no male substitute for your gal pals. Sure, life would be easier if people just said what they thought to your face, but us girls are super sensitive and we tend to take things the wrong way. I’m sorry to say it does not end in high-school, but the best part about growing up is that you can choose who you want to have in your life. So choose to be surrounded by great people and rather don’t bother too much with those people who take everything personally and make everything about them 😀
As soon as people stop appreciating the things you do for them it is time to back away. There is nothing worse than someone who is ungrateful and who expects you to continue going out of your way for them or for anyone else on their behalf. There are some things that you have to do and then there are some things that you only do to be nice and keep the peace, but if you’re not appreciated then why bother? It could be the smallest thing, such as expecting someone to open the door for you all the time, but you never say thank you. Could you really blame the person if they stop opening the door for you? No matter who it is that is doing something for you there is no reason why you cannot show some gratitude 😀
Hmmmm.. this one makes me think! The wheels in my head are turning to figure out if we should expect people to mean what they say, because that is how you would operate or is it just naive? I guess if you don’t mean something why say it? I think this one depends entirely on who you are and how you like to operate. I’ve learnt to not have expectations when it comes to people and maybe that is a little sad. The way I feel is that I would want someone to speak honestly about how they felt, because you can’t be expected to communicate properly if you don’t mean the things you say. From a relationship perspective – whether with friends or your significant other – this is a valid little something to think about.
Before I confuse myself I hope this have given us all something to think about!