I was having a chat with a friend and we got on to the topic of those moments in life that will change your life and most likely who you are forever. The thing about those things is that you rarely see them coming and when they do happen you do not really have time to sit back, assess the situation and decide where to go from there. I am not talking about stepping on an ant or accidentally biting in to a meaty sandwich if you are a vegetarian; I am talking about losing someone close to you or finding out that you are pregnant when you were not planning for it or the end of a relationship or friendship that was all you lived for or realizing that you are not the person you have been pretending to be. Those are the kinds of things that make you reassess your life, because you are suddenly torn from that comfortable place that you were so content to be in. Some events may shake you more than others, but no matter how big or small the event may be it will still have an affect on your future.
I wish I could offer some comforting advice on how to deal with those types of things, but that is where your morals and values that you were raised with will come in to play. Some people will abandon a sinking ship without telling anyone else about it while others will surprise themselves and actually do whatever they can to make the situation easy on others and on themselves. It is those events in life that really define who you are and if you are a coward you will run away. People often prefer to run away because escaping is often easier than dealing with things. Coward sounds like a terrible word to use, because at the end of the day some people are also stronger than others. We are always looking for hero’s; people who we can look up to and people who have achieved great things, but you are probably surrounded by great people who have survived many hardships and you do not even know about it.
The last thing you need is a pity party because those will not get you very far in life. You should be allowed to feel sorry for yourself for a little bit and then you need to find a way to move forward. I find that having wonderful friends and family who are always there can make all the difference in your life, but not everyone is fortunate enough to have great friends and family. You need to make sure that you can depend on yourself as well. To everyone who has been faced with an event that has changed their life and to everyone who will be faced with those events I hope that you come out the other side in one piece.