Yes, we all know this little technique so well, because we have either made use of it, make use of it or have had people use it against us. Some of us are masters of the guilt trip and we do not even realize we are doing it anymore. Sometimes it works and sometimes you end up aggravating the other person, because they know your tricks too well. It happens in relationships, friendship circles and even at work. The problem with guilt tripping is that people will eventually figure you out and will take everything you say with a pinch of salt. First, we need to understand why people make use of the guilt trip. The main reason for guilt tripping others is because you want to get them to do what you want to do. A guilt trip can often be used as an excuse to get yourself out of trouble and rather evoke sympathy from the other party. Either way, it is manipulation and at some point in our lives we have all done it!
The way to avoid a guilt trip is to never be afraid to use the word NO! For example, when your friends want to go to a place you do not like for the second weekend in a row when you agreed to not do that, you have earned the right to turn around and say NO. People will persist with their guilt trip and they do not give up easily so you have to become a stuck record and repeat the NO, no, no until it sinks in. You should also pin point the guilt trippers around you and watch out for signs of the manipulation tactics. If you kung-fu their guilt trip from the word go they will know to not try that nonsense with you. Some people have really mastered the art of guilt tripping so you had better master the art of counter acting the guilt trip.
Guilt tripping is selfish behavior and if you are a moderately decent person you will fall victim to it. They prey on the weak so best you buy yourself some boxing gloves and toughen up. The important thing to remember is that you are not responsible for someone else’s emotions, only your own, so if something is not going to make you happy then say it. Guilt tripping is also known as emotional blackmail and that seems to provide a more graphic description of guilt tripping. The next time someone turns around and says to you ‘After all I’ve done for you’ be prepared to dust it off your shoulders, laugh and let them have their little tantrum because they didn’t get their way. People who use family deaths as a way to guilt trip others should not be allowed to speak! They will try to make you feel as though you have put your foot straight in to your mouth, but often they do not deserve the sympathy!
If you have any emotional blackmail stories that take the cake, please feel free to share!