I am warning you ahead of time that this blog has a bit of a sentimental edge to it. I was having a chat with a friend over the weekend and we found ourselves chatting about friends, good friends and of course the best friend. The question is, how do you rank your friends? Yes, we all rank our friends and we rank our friends based on the qualities we think make a good friend. Some people will rank their friends based on how long they’ve known them, others on how well they get on and some will rank their friendships based on how often they see their friends. Neither way is wrong of course. The only problem is when your friends rank their friends differently to you and to you they may be your best friend but to them you are just a good friend. You may laugh, but there are people who are actually offended if someone who they consider to be their good friend does not, for example, ask them to be a bridesmaid at their wedding. Some people take their friendships so seriously that they may even end the friendship if such a thing had to happen!
If you ask me you can have more than one best friend. Best friends are the people who stick by you through thick and thin; who you fight with and make-up with time and time again; your best friend will never make you feel left out; they will always take your side even if you are wrong; you both keep in touch no matter where in the world you are and whenever you see the person again it is as if no time has passed in between. Something that I feel people need to remember is that no friendship is perfect, because there is no such thing as the PERFECT FRIEND! You have to accept that friends are people and people make mistakes. At the end of the day you are the only who can decide what your limits and boundaries are and you have to decide how disposable your friendships are. You go through different experiences with your different friends so keep an open mind.
Even guys have bromance so BFF’s are not just a chick thing anymore. How does everyone else rank their friends? My ranking is by trust and how long I have known my friends. It just makes sense; the longer you have known someone, the more you have been through together and the better you usually know someone. It also gives you time to build up trust. Others may feel differently so please let me know.