So I was having a chat with this really awesome guy and we got on to the subject of nice guys. You know, ‘nice guys always finish last.’ I never believed that guys are only friends with girls for one reason, but after many debates and many ‘ah’ moments I finally see that guys really won’t make that kind of effort with a girl and spend all that time with them if they weren’t expecting a little something more. Why do guys put themselves through that and why do girls never realise it when it is happening to them? You see all these movies about moving out of the friends zone and how you should do it and when it is too late and all that, but it still happens every day. It has happened to me and here I figured it was nice to have guy friends because they are so much less stressful than girls can be only to find out that the friendship is a farce… I do not mean that in a bad way I just mean that all the effort being pumped in to said friendship is in the hope of a relationship. Nice guys are not victims! Let’s be realistic about this.
So ‘nice guys’ become annoyed because they end up believing that girls always end up with the bad boy. Do not hide behind your meek I am such a nice guy and I never seem to get the girl nonsense. The brutal truth is that maybe you are reaching for some one out of your league. There is nothing wrong with that, but ‘nice guys’ please remember that there has to be an attraction from both sides. Answering to a girls every beck and call is not going to win them over or make them see you any differently, it is just going to turn you in to their best guy friend and possibly their little helper.True, girls should not take advantage of guys like that, because at the end of the day it is theirs feelings for you that is forcing them to kiss your butt. Personality is part of the package, but what about physical attraction? Do not go running around calling girls shallow because you are such a good person and you are peeved that they cannot see beyond what your looks. Why do you so desperately want them… because you were first physically attracted to them and then you got to know them. Why should it be any different for the girl?
Yes, girls go around crying because they keep getting hurt by these so called ‘bad boys.’ There was a girl crying in the bathroom this weekend at a club so I figured ‘shame, let me see if she is alright.’ It turns out the guy has messed her around more than once and I told her when you are drunk everything seems worse than it is and she should probably stop giving this douche more opportunities to use and abuse her. Girls, please… when you say ‘yes, but’ you need to have your head read! The guy is using you because you let him and if he has proven more than once that he is not serious then take a hint and move on. Why should it be a crime to now want to be tied down and be in a relationship? When a guy wants to be with you trust me, you will know! Expect with ‘nice guys’ for some reason???
Nice guys, please tell us why you hang around watching the girl you so desperately want to be with go from guy to guy instead of telling her how you feel? is it fear of rejection or fear of losing the friendship and things becoming awkward? Girls… do you know when that the guy likes you and you keep stringing him along? Then again if this so called ‘nice guy’ is looking to hook up with you is there really such a thing as a ‘nice guy’?